#WeNeedToTalk: The Power of Community & Sharing Our Goals
The recent trend in personal development has been all about how powerful our attitudes are. I don't necessarily disagree, but I recently saw a TedX Talk that shared a different perspective, the power of which cannot be denied. This is the talk I'm referring to:
I think the title says it all - isolation is the dream killer. However, I would say that most of us are fortunate enough to feel that at the very least, we're not isolated. We have people, especially when we count our community online. But as Barbara says, most of the people who know us view us through a certain lens, and have preconceived attitudes about us. I'm sure that you've heard the Jim Rone quote "You're the average of the five people you spend most time with," and if you haven't, I am sure that you understand the power of influence the people we spend time with has on us - our thoughts, attitudes, beliefs, and realities can all be shaped by the people around us. That's where the importance of a community like the one Barbara Sher describes above comes in. In case you saw the video and thought "21 minutes? No thanks!" like I often do, I'll summarize here: basically, Sher led a support circle, and in this job, she discovered that when people shared both their dreams and the obstacles they faced in trying to go after them, their communities could step in and help with solutions and make connections to make the impossible come true. She shares her story, which is full of incredible success stories, in a really personable and humorous fashion, so if you did skip the video, I encourage you to reconsider! Watching this gave me pause - and made me want to reflect on my community and associations. I've successfully either removed or diminished "energy vampires" whose negativity was slowing me down, but could I benefit from a larger variety of community? Honestly, the idea scared me - because what would happen if someone did make me actually chase my dreams? I thought immediately of this quote, which is among my favorites:
(Source: PassItOn.com) The extended quote, which is actually a poem from her book "A Return to Love" goes on to say this: "You are a child of God.
Your playing small Does not serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking So that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, As children do. We were born to make manifest The glory of God that is within us.
It's not just in some of us; It's in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we're liberated from our own fear, Our presence automatically liberates others." What if I had a group of people who aren't willing to accept my excuses? What if even the people around me knew exactly what my goals were, and used their resources to make them happen? We know that community is great to band together in tough times, to lend a helping hand. I love the idea of extending our idea of the power of community to an idea that changes the world by making one dream come true at a time. Can you imagine what the world would be like if we all helped each other this way?
Mandie Brice is obsessed with personal development, and the idea that if you look better and feel better, you'll do everything else better, too. A former teacher turned model, then makeup artist, writer, and podcaster, she loves sharing what she's learned in her never-ending quest for self-improvement from the inside-out. She's originally from the Midwest (Milwaukee, Wisconsin, to be exact) has been living in LA for two years, with a stop in the Bay Area for the three years before that! Her writing has been featured in publications like Apple News, Huffington Post, and Forbes.com, among others, and her makeup work has been on major television networks, People Magazine, Women's Day, Prevention, the cover of the Village Voice, and Malynda Hale's face.